1 min read
06 Apr
Dating is gambling

The key to success on the first dating is to relax and be yourself. If you try to act in a way that you think the other person will like, they may start to like people you don't like, and eventually you will break up and get hurt, so honesty is the best strategy. Finally, if you just be yourself, it won't work for you. You know they are not suitable for you. 

Dating is like gambling on poker. Of course, a good bluff may win you one or two hands, but you won't win the World Poker Competition by bluffing, only by trying your best. It's no different from dating. If you make up something to try to impress this person, they don't like you, but like you who are fake. Eventually they will find that the two are different. 

Try to recall what you two talked about on the phone and see if you have learned anything that can help you decide where to date. But if you don't have enough information about them to know what they might like, you sometimes have to put all your eggs in one basket. I hope you don't cut the crap. 

The most important thing to do on the first dating is to have fun. The bigger you do, the harder it is, and the more likely you are to become an asshole. If you feel nervous before dating, take a deep breath for a few minutes. If it doesn't help, then I suggest you do what I like to do in casinos. When my nervousness bothers me, I just have a drink. Alcohol in a drink usually makes me calm down and concentrate. 

Here are some simple tips for a nice first date: 

Take her/him to a good place, quiet but not too quiet. You should be able to hear each other's voices, but other disturbances are also good for those uncomfortable moments. 

Don't take her/him to places where your friends often go, it will make her/him feel as if they are united, or they may feel inappropriate because you make them feel this way and resent you. 

Plan the whole evening before dating, just in case, it is very important to have a backup idea. The tricky part is to make it look like it wasn't completely planned. Suppose you decide to take her to dinner, and then when you want to go for a walk on the beach, don't just say hey, let's go for a walk on the beach after dinner. I suggest you wait until after dinner, ask her if she wants to take a walk to burn her dinner, and then take her to the beach. 

Then, when you walk on the beach, hold her/his hand, so that you have physical connection, and it will be easier when you kiss for the first time in the future. 

Remember, dating is a kind of gambling. Sometimes you get a bad hand. If you play the right hand, you will find the right person and win the first prize.

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